Marge Woodfin, Pilot staff writer

On days when I take more than just a passing glance at the mirror I feel as though I'm looking at the "Picture of Dorian Gray." Not, I hope, as a result of evil, but I must admit that time and gravity have taken a terrible toll on the reflection that greets me.

I realized just how fleeting my glances into the mirror are these days when a friend remarked about a drooping eyelid, asking if it bothered my eyesight at all.

I wasn't even aware that I had a drooping eyelid. Big deal. It doesn't affect my eyesight at all. At least I don't think it does.

But, I don't feel old, and I can't believe just how old I am. I do know that I passed my 80th birthday in 2004 because there was a quarter page announcement in our favorite newspaper.

As Rocky McVay used to say when he was a county commissioner and I was covering the county, "It's hard to keep secrets when you hang around with people who buy their ink by the gallon."

Oh, I know how old I am chronologically, but physically, emotionally and intellectually, I'm sure that I'm actually much younger. And, like the "Unsinkable Molly Brown," I ain't down yet.

I still ascribe to the "use it or lose it" philosophy, and I can still keep up with some much younger folks, and I'm not the only one in our charming little town who believes that.

An extremely large segment of the population is made up of retirees who contribute to the welfare of the community, serving on city and county committees, reading with children in the schools, getting out the vote, helping law enforcement as members of Volunteers In Police, keeping activities going at the Chetco Activity Center that include public transportation and Time Out for caregivers, plus making the surroundings more beautiful as members of the Garden Club, serving the youth as members of CASA, and much, much more.

I also believe that those who so willingly and graciously serve the community are also serving themselves, by keeping themselves young by being active.

Ergo, "use it or lose it."

I remember hearing gerontologist Ken Dychwald say something at a National Speakers Association meeting many years ago that made a lasting impression on me. He said that one of the greatest causes of illness in our society today is "hardening of the attitudes."

I'm sure you've noticed that rigid things tend to break under pressure while things that are flexible can bounce back, and I tend to think that includes people.

I think, especially as we get older and more set in our ways, that we should all take inventory of our prejudices, stored resentments, old hurts, and present attitudes, and get rid of the ones that keep us from being flexible in our associations.

Please don't misunderstand me. I don't mean being flexible in our attitudes toward murder, mayhem, thievery and fraud, but I do mean trying to see another person's point of view on anything that doesn't threaten your morality.

I don't mean being silent if you hear or see something that is unkind or unfair. But, there are ways of expressing feelings about those things without being hostile.

Sometimes it isn't easy to remain calm in the midst of things that

seem unfair, but we do need to remember that "a soft answer turns away


That's one I personally need to work on. I must admit that I do tend

to get a bit excited occasionally and can generate more heat than light.

But, it's never too late to learn, and continuing to learn can help

to keep us young. E. Stanley Jones has written, "We don't grow old. We

get old when we stop growing."

He suggests that we may stop growing physically (those of us who

fight corpulence may wish we would stop growing, but that's a whole

other subject) but we can continually grow mentally and spiritually.

A French philosopher is quoted as saying, "To exist is to change. To

change is to mature. To mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly."

To which, Jones responds, "But not only creating oneself, but others,

endlessly. We are continuously creative."

What a wonderful thought.

So get up off your okole and go out and create!